14 Day Challenge- Lesson 2

Lesson #2 - Greet your husband & give him a hug. Let him know again that you missed him or were thinking about him today. Again, this is secondary to what you are really feeling. Just do it. If he says something like, "Wow, two days in a row. Do you want money or something"? Ignore it. He is saying this to you because he is noticing your actions & they feel good to him. What may feel like sarcasm to you is playful bantering to him. After you hug him, leave the room. Don't allow for a conversation about your new behavior. This isn't a game, we are just trying to avoid getting into a discussion of unresolved issues that you are not equipped to handle just yet.

May 2003

~Well, I did the challenge yesterday, it was easier for me b/c it was my day off. I realize some days Ryan gets home before I do. I think the point is just to take an extra minute to greet him (no matter if it is at the door or wherever). A lot of the time I come in put my stuff done and go about what I need to be doing instead of taking the time to say, "hey babe I missed ya!". We do always ask each other about our days, but it's not until later in the evening usually. I greeted him at the door w/ a big smooch yesterday and he asked me, "What was that for?"... yikes! Then proceeded to say I must of had a good day or something b/c I seemed to be in an awfully good mood! Lol, I really did have a good day yesterday (hello, I was home all day w/ my baby boy and got lots of stuff done!) so I just went along w/ it... def. didn't tell him about the challenge. I don't want him to think I'm loving on him as a "game". I could def. tell he appreciated my small effort!