I think my post "Spending Time w/ Family" might of been misunderstood! I didn't mean that I don't like to talk about Andon, or that it is even hard for me to talk about him. At home, he is a part of our daily conversation, every day w/out fail we talk about Andon. We have pictures all around our house and it just seems very natural to talk about him. I also don't mind when others (friends and family like you guys) talk about him or bring him up. I WANT to talk about him, I need to! I need to know that he is real and that people understand that! What I meant was that it's hard to explain when a perfect stranger asks about how mnay children you have. My response I had planned in my head was, I have Brycen and Andon, but Andon is in Heaven now. I was caught so completly off guard though by this well meaning, simple question from a stranger that I froze. Strangers don't normally want to hear every detail about your life, and believe me, when I start talking about Andon, it's not a short conversation :) Sooo! I just wanted to clear that up- I don't want people to be afraid to ask me about him or to talk about him, because that's not weird or hard for me at all! I LOVE talking about him just like I love talking about Brycen.
Also, while on the subject of Andon I wanted to let you all know that my sweet friend Leilanni and her dear family are walking in the March of Dimes walk in memory of our precious Andon! Isn't that the sweetest thing? What a special way to remember our sweet boy AND to raise money for a great cause. If any of you would like to donate to the cause in memory of Andon please go here. Thank you so much :)
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I think I understood you right...it's like what do you say to strangers when they catch you off guard like that....totally understandable! I think the answer is just whatever's in your heart sweetie! You are so strong! I can't even see myself being half as strong as you!
I meant to comment last night but got interupted by a wild toddler :) What I was going to say is when my older brother died when I was in high school I had a similiar feeling (I say similar, bc loosing a child would be WAY harder and completely different than loosing a sibling). I grieved by talking about Ryan, but sometimes I just wanted people to look at me and not feel sorry for me and act like we did before he died. Don't get me wrong, I loved talking about my brother and even found comfort in talking about teh car accident, but more so when I wanted to and to the people I wanted to. I don't think people took your post yesterday the wrong way. Keep it up, you are doing amazing!!
Totally understandable!
And thanks for putting the link on here - we're so thrilled to be able to honor Andon this way!
Chelsa,
I have not been on your blog for a number of months and did not realize all that you are your family were going through. I am so sorry and my heart just hurts so much for your and your whole family. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
With Hope,
I think you said the right thing. I've been asked a lot of times and I say that I have an angel baby. But what is really hard is when they ask Crystal if she has any brothers or sisters. She has been asked a couple of times and both times she told them she had a baby brother that lives w/Jesus and that's all she'll say...and that's probably all that needs to be said. My preacher told me that when people ask that...tell them the truth but don't feel like you have to explain anything because if this didn't happen...and you said you only had 1 kid who was visably here...you wouldn't have to explain that. I hope that made sence. Keep your head up and be strong...people like us are extra special because of what we have waiting in heaven for us :-)
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